The Hope never dies

  1. Introduction

Push back all fears, come out to life and hope. Navigate the new reality. Turn your back to all those things that bog you down and empower yourself to turn towards hope. The recent times are very hard for everyone, for sure. It can be said that not a single soul has been spared from dread and anxiety. However, we must not forget that a positive attitude can be the answer to every dilemma. A positive attitude starts with hoping to come out of an ongoing crisis, stay focused and work hard for a better future.  This book is meant for all those people who are somewhere in between ‘no hope’, ‘lost hope’, ‘false hope’ and ‘real hope’. These are terms based on the study of psychology and can be differentiated with different levels of viewpoints and realism.

Sometimes, we encounter some incidents in our lives which force us to believe that nothing can be changed for the betterment of our future and the crisis will go on for our entire lives. That any step taken to end the predicament will turn futile. This leaves the people with ‘no hope’. A person with no hope suffers from anxiety and unhappiness. Often these people live through ‘distorted reality’ and they possess a ‘hopeless outlook’. Their sense of reality is found to be something abstract, with no relation to accurate reality. Eventually, they end up in a state of helplessness.

‘Lost hope’ is found in people who are exactly aware of their existing accurate reality but are also aware that the reality is not in favor of them or that the reality cannot be changed easily for betterment. Psychology says that these people are usually practical in the correct sense but are unfortunately caught up in an irreversible and unwanted state. They also possess the ‘hopeless outlook’.

Then again, there are people who are hopeful. They have that positive state of mind that drives a person to live a fulfilled life. However, there is a subtle difference between false hope and real hope. Real hope surfaces up when the concerned person lives through a realistic approach and is fully aware of his present circumstances, i.e. their accurate reality. Their base of hope is entirely dependent on their set of goals that are more rational than being a fantasy. They understand that our anticipations must be based on reality. False hope is more like a fantasy. People endorsing false hope live in a distorted reality, intentionally or unintentionally. They possess a ‘hopeful outlook’ but are misguided by the musings of his owns thoughts. Most possibly these hopes are not going to materialize in the future.

So, it is very important for us to be hopeful. Hope keeps us pushing forward in life. However, we also need to remember that we must derive our hopes based on our present and past reality, and not anoint us with invalid future expectations. Hope must be something of a realistic approach, false hope must be avoided in any situation, lost hope must be revived at any cost and no hope must not find a permanent place in our lives.

Formally, hope can be defined as the ‘optimistic state of mind’, which is basically the outcome of expectations. Many have argued that expectations or desires are the root-cause of all our sorrows. We expect everything to occur in the ways which we want and when those expectations do not shape up, we fall into despair. However, if we do not expect from our future then we would be stagnant, with no advancements at all. The point is that we work towards our expectations and do not stay confined in daydreaming. This optimistic state of mind, precisely hope, is what keeps us going. However, hope is more than just ‘goal setting’. Hope is the factor that legitimates our dreams. Psychologists define it as our very own story that creeps in our thoughts and that we start believing to come true at some point of time in the future.

Animals kill, eat, sleep, defend their younger ones and that’s it. They do not worry when there is no food or when is there is the possibility of an attack. They just do their work. They simply keep going no matter what the crisis is. That is their natural instinct. Humans have the same instinct but with a twist. We can think independently. We are not programmed to simply react to whatever happens in our lives. We think, we innovate and yes, definitely we worry. Worrying has become like a part of our everyday lives and when a crisis like the recent times is encountered, there is no limit to worrying.

Experts state that hope comes into play when there is an emergence of the crisis. It is the positive state of mind that opens to us with a creative set of possibilities to combat the crisis. You all know that ‘necessity is the father of invention’ but are you aware of the process that goes inside our brain to meet the necessity? The first step is hope. A new idea amalgamated with the power of hope finally leads to the invention. If we had no hope and belief in our ideas, nothing could have been invented till now in world history. We might have been still living in the dark ages. Hope is the driving force to our human lives. Hope led us to build houses for us, invent new ways to keep us alive, led us to build large civilizations and million other things that could not have been achieved with hopelessness. Whether it is the crisis of communication leading to the invention of telephones, the crisis of transport leading to the wide range of vehicles, or a health crisis of our family member leading to us taking measures hoping for a recovery. At every step of our lives, we meet with challenges. Challenges that are capable of leading us to despair. But, the point is to not let others or any situation leave us deprived of our positive emotions like joy, happiness, faith, love, pride, empathy and most importantly hope. Positive thinking results in fruitful situations that empower our lives.

Sometimes to be hopeful is not an individual task. It is a social phenomenon. It is defined by the term social hope. It is a collective phenomenon carried on by a community as a whole. Situations like a war, an outburst or natural calamity where a community or a group of geographical relevance suffer, demand for social hope. Social hope is a debatable topic, but if achieved the community may reach to great heights.

When I started writing this book, I intended to address people who are suffering from a loss of hope and are living in anguish. But as I proceeded with the writings, I felt that every person once in a lifetime has encountered hopelessness in one way or the other. This is a fact of our life that invariably is not possible to be avoided. As I started researching through the internet and as well looking into the lives of people around me with a renewed perspective, I realized that there are wonderful inspiring stories around us. These people failed again and again but kept on hoping for the best and that in turn kept them working hard with patience. Hence, I have decided to dedicate this book to those amazing people who said ‘no’ to hopelessness and never stooped low to destiny. Instead of falling prey in the hands of destiny, they decided to write their own destiny. And how wonderfully they lived, inspiring thousands of lives. I believe that if one life has succeeded in inspiring another life, maybe that number is only one, then that one inspiring life has lived a truly meaningful existence.

In this book, I aim to illustrate why and how people are robbed of their hopes and then some amazingly inspiring stories of so-called common people who made history in one way or the other. The girl who kept on waiting for her love for almost her whole life with hope, an ambitious boy with humble beginnings how hoped to fulfill his dreams, the mother who is a doctor by profession how fought against her in-laws for her and her daughters’ lives with hope, the woman rejected by her own family how she herself became a family to 1400 orphans – and so on. These are extraordinary of simple individuals who decided to cling to hope in the worst of adverse situations. Let us peek through these stories and delve a little deeper into optimism. With a prelude of how we lose hope and why it is particularly important not to lose hope.

  • Instances where people tend to lose hope
  • Why it is necessary to not lose hope
  • The girl who waited for 40 yrs
  • The boy who wanted to become a globe trotter
  • The doctor who was asked by her husband to foeticide her twin babies in her womb
  • The author who got rejected by 22 publishers
  • The student who failed in his board exams
  • SindutaiSapkal The Mother of Orphans her struggle and noble work, despite of all the obstacles she never lost HOPE and adopted 1400 orphans.
  1.  What the above stories teach us
  1.  How to be hopeful and keep us motivated
  1.  Hope is a personal choice and must not be influenced by others
  1.  To the people who have lost hope