“There is nothing on earth that you cannot have-once you have mentally accepted the fact that you can have it.”

-Robert Collier


Life is full of twists and turns, it’s easy to become despondent. Obstacles and adversities show up unexpectedly and find ourselves out of our comfort zone. When people say life is unfair, they’re referring to life being unfavourable when things don’t go as planned. Surely, we’re intelligent enough to know we don’t always get what we want.

Regardless, one thing that’s helped the truly resilient and hopeful people remain optimistic, is that not everything will go as planned and that’s okay. In fact, not getting what we want is often a good thing, since there’s often something greater on the horizon to fill its place. We must accept life will be full of: obstacles, road blocks, negative emotions and circumstances that will derail our best laid plans. Knowing this should remove the burden, life is not pure sailing, but an adventure full of valleys and victories. If we fear, “what could go wrong next,” we place an unnecessary burden on our shoulders while dreading the worst. If we adopt a hopeful and optimistic heart, we can breathe easier and expect a more pleasant future.

Hope is more valuable than we give it credit for. It’s a soft burning flame, unable to be extinguished and capable of enduring any conditions. Hope has what it takes to get us through anything. Hope is the belief things will work, especially when it seems otherwise. It helps if we stay calm and peaceful when something less than desirable emerges. Hope believes we will get through it. Hope remembers the times we made it through. Hope teams with faith and believes in the impossible.

 “Only in the darkness can you see the stars.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.

When times are tough, our emotions are intensified and not symbolic of who we are. When the boss tells you the company is downsizing and your position is terminated, when your son gets expelled from school, your partner decides they don’t know if they want to spend the rest of their life with you, the doctor gives you an adverse health report or your dog goes missing, then your emotions are in for a roller-coaster ride. But with hope, your thoughts gravitate toward optimism. We cannot expect life to be smooth sailing all the time. Unexpected conditions arise, not to overwhelm us but to test our inner resolve and awaken us to our true power. Our emotional response in such times, is not indicative of our true self. That’s because we respond to our external environment instead of staying composed.

Sometimes when a situation is bleak, we’re invited to master a lesson greater than we expect. This is when hope will get us through. If you lose your job, there might be a series of experiences during your transition of looking for another job. You may realise you loathed your previous job and are now more determined to find a career path that makes you happy. Maybe you want to start your own business instead of working for someone. Consider this something to learn from instead of dwelling on the unfortunate setbacks. Assuredly, there’s a lesson and inner growth contained within our circumstances, even if you can’t see it yet.

 “You can cut all the flowers but you cannot keep Spring from coming.” ― Pablo Neruda

During hard times, we must do our best to envision a positive future. In fact, what you dwell upon is what you likely will get. Call it empowering beliefs, though what you hold in your mind is what you will receive. We are the product of our emotions, given we feel our way through life. If your emotions are fixed on negative aspects, you’re likely to attract those situations because of your predominant reactions. The universe reflects what you put out into the ether. As an example, if we entertain negative thoughts related to not having enough money to pay my bills, we’ll see evidence of this echoed in reality. We might notice a TV commercial discussing debt prevention or perhaps someone mentions their financial difficulties. If we’re aware, we’ll recognise the signs that our thoughts are out of alignment. If we persist with these thoughts, it’s likely to materialise because we’ve willed it into existence, whether we like it or not.

How do you see your future developing? Close your eyes for a moment and visualise an optimistic path. It requires work and discipline to create an intentional future and it can’t be achieved overnight. This is because you’re likely to slip into your old ways if you’re not mindful of your thoughts. The world is full of people who have overcome incredible hurdles and failures to become successful and happy. They’re unattached to outcomes because they appreciate not everything goes as planned.  When one door closes, another opens at the right time, as long as their thoughts are in alignment. Allow life to weave her mysterious ways by being detaching from outcomes. What appears detrimental at first may simply be laying the groundwork for something greater later on. Commit to a life of optimism, irrespective of the circumstances and raise the beacon of hope when times are tough. We can become confident through our willingness to see life from a different viewpoint. The next time something doesn’t go as planned, draw on hope and declare: “It will be alright, I trust for the best in this situation” and chances are it will turn out as you intend. Hope will get us through anything, but first we must create the circumstances for it to flourish, before it sets our world alight.

History is full of examples that show that people have achieved amazing results by perseverance and positive attitude. King Bruce of Scotland could not free his land despite many efforts. He had to run away and hide in a cave. He saw a spider who was trying to reach the roof. It made nine attempts but each time it fell just before making it. It tried again and succeeded to reach the roof. King Bruce learnt a great lesson of keeping the hope alive. He made a concerted attempt and was able to free his land. Columbus had no money or fleet of ships to make a voyage across the globe. But he was sure that one day he will be able to realize his dream. He approached many people for help. Ultimately, the King of Italy helped him. He made his historic voyage and discovered America. When India won the Cricket World Cup in 1983, the West Indies team was the strongest in the world. India’s defeated it even after scoring only 183 runs batting first. India’s captain Kapil Dev told his teammates that anything is possible in cricket. If we fight hard keep self- belief, we may win the match. And it actually happened. India became the champions. The feat was repeated by the young Indian side under M.S. Dhoni’s captaincy to win the Twenty – 20 World Cup. Abraham Lincoln fought many elections in a row. He could not win even a single election. But hope sprang eternal in him. He contested the presidential election and own. He became the president of America. Such examples are endless. All of them go on to show the major role positive thinking plays in our success. It is pertinent to mention here that mere positive thinking without putting in the required amount of effort will not lead to success.