Do you have a dream that does not let you sleep at night? What are you finding in, and from life? Which path do you wish to follow irrespective of what others have to say? Are you passionate enough to continue with it forever? Play and replay these questions in your mind and hear the answers accurately. What do YOU want? Yes, I am just concerned about your wish because if you are satisfied with yourself, you will be the happiest person but if you think what you chose to do was severely wrong, then you have to stay with this unsatisfied side of yours forever! Initially, it may involve a lot of pain and hard work but as Tony Robbins has rightly framed, “What You Link PAIN To, and What You Link PLEASURE To, Shapes Your Destiny.”
Riya Banerjee belonged to a family where becoming an engineer had turned into a custom. From fights over topics related to engineering to making this subject their only choice, Banerjee family expected the same from every member. It was like a hierarchical job, hence nobody dared to think beyond that and whether everyone liked it or not, engineering was their primary motto. However, Riya had the audacity to think differently, she chose a different path from her childhood and that made all the difference! She must be deeply motivated by the wonderful lines by Robert Frost, “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference.” Riya wanted to become a teacher —— a dance teacher to be more specific! A severe storm shook everyone present in the family after they heard about Riya’s true passion for dance. Dance was everything for her, she found solace in those dance moves, she could express herself completely through those smooth and graceful steps, it became her life and now, she wished to share it with the world, she wanted the other passionate individuals to join her and of course, engineering did not appeal to her! What a shame! What a disgrace to the family! thought many but these harsh words could not burn out her inner fire, instead it ignited more, and she wished to prove herself, not to others but to her own self. She pursued her dream and completed her studies in classical dance, nobody understood what she intended to do and why, because she only knew how her passion pushed her every day, motivated her every moment and poured immense strength in her. Life was definitely not smooth for Riya and she struggled hard to find a spacious area so that every student could learn this art and dance freely and could express themselves without fear. But, when you really want something, ultimately everything falls into place after multiple sessions of uproar and commotion. Now, Miss Riya Banerjee is a successful dance teacher with an extended family of more than 500 students! She has also found an ideal dance partner who would help her to strengthen her passion and let its wings spread more. I must admit that she was indeed a real inspiration for me! Being my friend, Riya encouraged me to take a step towards my own passion, she motivated me to be fearless because when you do what you really want to do, your head must be held high and you must make sure that you reach the zenith even if people try to pull you down!
“A winner never quits, and a quitter never wins.” —— always believe that you can be the winner, hence never quit no matter how hard it becomes. Dream when your eyes are open and do not stop till you achieve your goal, your dream and your passion should not let you sleep because after you gain, peaceful sleep will automatically come to your eyes. So, till the time, hustle hard every day, be consistent, follow your passion and see how others might be benefitted from this passion. Successful people do not think about themselves only, they think about others and they chalk out their plans in such a way that it becomes a passion for other people too. The CEO of a successful company completely fulfils his or her dream when others join and they collectively work to make each day a success, to broaden the horizon and reach out to others in the process.
Brian Tracy rightly pointed out, “Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking What’s in it for me.” Success is not about you, it also includes others and if you can make the others happy, know that you are the winner. Do not worry about making a living, instead make your life, turn it into a beautiful space where you can live harmoniously with others. Earning money and leading a luxurious life is secondary because if you do not have peace and happiness there, money and luxury would be of no use, isn’t it? Follow your passion instead of fulfilling the dreams of your parents, teachers and relatives because if you do that, it will give them happiness and if you follow yours, you will experience the ultimate peace of mind! So, choose what is more important to you and follow the same in your life to experience the magic that lies underneath.
In the inspirational
words of Mark Twain, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by
the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So, throw off the
bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.” Come out of your comfort zone, listen to your inner
voice, work for your inner happiness, and spread this aura of positivity around
you! You can make or break your passion, your dream, hence, be wise and choose
the right path!
CHAPTER 4 — POWER OF COMMUNICATION
This inspiring story of Mr. Verma will enliven you, encourage you to take the right steps and will probably give you new ideas about how you can prosper in life — both in your personal and professional life. Though he was not a topper in school or in college, Mr. Naveen Verma’s inner fire to do something great was always alive. His dreams and ambitions were high, but he did not get proper support from his family because he could not neither achieve the gold medals nor the certificates ever. Fortunately, he managed to secure a job after his post-graduation, but this was not his ultimate mission in life because he wished to touch the sky, he craved to gather more experience and help others as well. Though he was never a topper, he was the master at a vital skill, that is, the communication skill, he always tried to know the individual with whom he communicated and also knew how to gather more knowledge from them, how to impress them genuinely. At the office canteen he would sit with his colleagues and talk to them, listen to their stories, and build a good rapport with them. He was a good content writer and editor but after a few months, he improved as he learnt several new techniques from his seniors and helped the subordinates as well. During the annual meeting, the manager of the company was highly impressed when she received an impeccable idea from Naveen, to attract more clients to their company. Naveen knew both the highlights and the weaknesses of the company as well as the employees, hence he could communicate that problem to the head as well as to his colleagues so that they could eradicate the cons as a team! He was not only thinking about the benefits of the company but in turn, was improving his skills as well. Soon, the manager asked him to talk to the clients because his communication skills were splendid and attractive. Since he had a good rapport with his colleagues, who received his help also, they nominated him as the manager after the previous manager retired. Naveen never expected this, and he never thought that he had the potential to be a manager of a well-reputed company! The unparalleled communication skills, presence of mind and his constant dedication amalgamated into a wonderful outcome! His happiness knew no bounds since, finally, he could prove himself, he could reach the top, he could follow his passion and the journey of his success just commenced…there was a still a long way to go!
“The power to direct our focus on one thing and ignore others lies at core of willpower.” — you cannot find success if you spread your focus on various things and that one thing that you wish to achieve would somewhere get lost in the heap. Your willpower is your biggest strength and along with that you must know how to frame your words in such a way so that it is well received by the listener. In your personal life also, the key to a long and successful relationship is good communication, the ability to listen and sometimes listen to those things also that are unsaid. Any quarrel as well as misunderstanding can be sorted out with the help of good communication and a communication is only complete when you hear and understand what the other person has to say and reply accordingly. One-way communication leads to more confusion and is never an ideal practice. Also, when someone tries to communicate to us about something or someone who is very close to us, try to figure out certain things before drawing a conclusion. Know whether that information is completely true or not, try to understand whether it is useful for you or not and finally, whether it yields something positive or not. If all the three answers are no, is the communication a successful one? Can you decipher anything from that? There will be a communication failure here because it is untrue and reaching you via an external source, it is not direct. When someone informs us something, we instantly believe in their words, we draw conclusions even before realizing the truth and this is how we give birth to a misunderstanding and unhealthy relationships as well as mindset. A false news spreads like a wildfire but an important one needs time to reach people and insert in their mind. The power of communication can yield positive and fruitful results, but it can also turn out to be obstructive and dismissive. Gautam Buddha preached, “Words have power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.”
communicate with someone, observe him or her properly, instead of just looking
at them and blankly listening. Keep your mind open, do not overload it with
your own beliefs and preconceived notions, do not judge people too easily or
believe them blindly, be unbiased but know the difference between right and
wrong, show interest in what others want to say because you may expect to learn
new things from them and here, remember that learning never stops. The people
who are successful, who achieve their goals and dreams are great communicators
and this is one of the major reasons behind their achievements. The same rule
applies in your relationship and if you really want to spend your life with
someone, know how to communicate with him or her first! There is no magic,
there is no shortcut, the magic is you because everything depends on what you
do and how you do. You can shake or break the world with your words, so choose
them wisely and utter them gently. You do not need money to talk or communicate
but how you use them will decide how much it costs!
CHAPTER 5 — BEING YOURSELF
When Liza post graduated with her group of friends in 2010, she did not know what was waiting for her outside, she was unaware of the challenges that she was about to face, she did not know that her life will turn differently —–for her own benefit! Like most of her friends she took the exams and interviews conducted by various companies at her university because her friends were looking for a secured job, if not, then some means to earn money and become financially independent. Liza wished to fit in, did not dare to think differently and chose to follow the crowd. Deep within, she aspired to become a professor after her doctoral degree, she dreamt of guiding her students, she wished to be unique in her own ways but her fear did not let her move forward on that path. She was relieved when she secured a job just like some of her friends. They were happy, very happy but was she happy? Yes, she was delighted seeing her parents’ smile, she was cheerful but not peaceful from within. Is this the right decision? Am I taking the correct path? What if I regret in future and what if I was supposed to do something else? —these thoughts took away her sleep at night, she was always lost in her thoughts, she knew that she did not want to live this life, then what should be done? Should she take the risk? Yes, she took the risk, she chose a different path and the first step was rejecting the job offer. Though some were stunned, and others were disappointed, Liza knew what were the next difficult yet right steps. She commenced her long, tiresome yet joyful journey as a research scholar! Yes, now she was living her life, walking on the path of her own choice, she felt tired but never stopped or stooped. When her friends were engrossed and somewhat stuck in the 9 to 5 job cycle, she spent her time at the library, when they enjoyed their weekend parties, she enjoyed her research work and finally when her dream came true, others gazed at her and thought how they had crumbled their dreams with their own hands! Dr Liza Jones is now a successful professor and she always believes that you should be yourself first, don’t try to fit in just to be one of them when you can be the one, don’t follow the trend when you can be the trend, don’t be afraid because when you overcome fear, you receive the most precious gifts called success and happiness!
Ralph Waldo Emerson opined, “To be yourself in a world that is
constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
The world will try to convince you and sometimes pressurize you to be like
them, to follow what they want to follow and to avoid risks but what is life
without a bit of risk? If you do not explore, who else will? If you do not
start, who will? Never be someone else, never dream of living someone’s else
life because you are unique, and you were born to be different from the rest! What
is success for others, may not be success for you, what lightens up others, may
just take away the light for you, what excites others, may not excite you, so
why to be like them? You cannot be like a successful businessman, or lead a
life like a famous personality, you can only live like you, you can only be you
and no one else! You can only find happiness when you decide to be you,
otherwise the quest of happiness may be a lifelong process. “The secret of
Success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and
pleasure use you. If you do that, you are in control of your life. If you don’t,
life controls you.” —– this famous saying by Tony Robbins explores the
deepest corners of who you are, what your life should be like and what is the
essence of success. Use the pain to hustle harder, use the pleasure in your
favour and not the other way round. Control your own life, do not let anyone
else control it for you because you have the sole right to do that! Listen to
your inner voice, your intuition and decide your own path because that is the
only way towards your destination. Each of us have a separate path and when we
fail to choose that path, we reach someone else’s destination, we start to live
like someone else but is that what you really want? You have one life and one
opportunity, utilize it to the fullest, it is never an acceptable choice to be
someone else. For how long can you wear a mask and pretend to be what you are
not? You are bound to be tired and quit one day but do you really wish to quit?
Give a full stop to such a life and press the restart button and now, plan
everything according to your own wish, lead your life like you always wanted to
and feel the drastic difference! You may fail several times but rise like a
phoenix, never kill your inner desires, dreams, and visions otherwise you will
die midway. Do not expect anyone to support you because you are your biggest
motivator and if you find even one external supporter, keep him or her in your
life, that individual deserves respect, love and friendship from you. The
famous writer, Paulo Coelho said, “Some people around you will not understand
your journey. They don’t need to; it’s not for them.” Do not try to impress
everyone around you and in turn, lose yourself, learn to say no when you are
not willing to do something, it is not being selfish, it is showcasing
self-love and interest. Love and accept yourself first before you expect the
same from someone else. Create a life for yourself instead of living somewhere
which was already created by others. Several people are unhappy because they
are forcibly living the life they do not want to live. Do not belong to this
unsatisfied group of people, live your own life and live life with no regrets!
CHAPTER 6 — GRATITUDE
How often do you genuinely say a Thank you? Or, are you just thankful for all the good things that have happened in your life? Aren’t you thankful for those hardships that taught you some valuable lessons? Aren’t you grateful for your failures, your emotional breakdowns that have shaped you into a wonderful individual today? Yes, we often forget to express our gratitude towards these hard times because we only look at the bright side and leave the rest. Always remember that those dark corners can also be nurtured with plenty of light one day, they will not remain dark forever! Do not be a taker, because you will find more pleasure in giving, when you help someone, do not expect anything in return and your biggest joy will be their happiness, their smile!
John’s life was not a smooth one due to immense financial difficulties. When stopped dreaming big because when you do not have enough money, can you fulfil those dreams at all? In spite of several hurdles and difficulties, John’s parents supported him till he completed his school life. Since he was gifted with intelligence and immense ability to do hard work, they could not stop his studies in between but what next? His parents could not support him more even if they wanted to from the core of their hearts, their hands were tied. John was devastated because he wished to become a doctor and serve the poor people like him but without money, this dream will merely remain a dream. One of his neighbours, who loved him from his childhood, decided to give some money to John but he was not financially stable as well. He lived alone after his wife’s demise and treated John as his own son. He just smiled and gave his money to John and blessed him for his future and his achievements that were yet to arrive! With tears in his eyes and hope in heart, John accepted this unconditional love and help which he would remember forever! John was brimming with gratitude but did not know how to give back, he only knew one thing that he had to pay enough respect to this help and become a doctor in the near future! After many years, he fell sick and did not know what to do because the surgery that he had to go through involved a huge sum of money. He thought maybe he was destined to embrace death at that time, his days were numbered. His train of thoughts broke when the nurse informed him about his surgery which was due in two days. Before he could utter anything, his doctor arrived and said, “You have already paid your bills. The money that you gave me several years back, helped me to become what I am now. Now, I will do your surgery and save your life, which is precious. I am John, Dr John Brooks, at the gentle service of my Almighty!” Tears blurred his vision and he felt something that cannot be expressed in words!
Life is not same for everyone; some can lead a life of luxury while others struggle to fill their stomach. Amidst this, if we can help only one needy individual, we can declare that our life is a real success. Everyone can take but how many can give? Everyone can think about themselves but how many can think about others? Happiness doubles when you share and showcase your gratitude to someone who has helped you when you needed them the most. Be thankful for what you have now and say a big thank you for what you are about to receive in life. Thank all the people around you, thank nature, thank the favourable and unfavourable situations, show gratitude to that dog who loves you unconditionally, show gratitude to that man who simplifies your job daily, say Thank You for all your gains and also your failures, it will all get added up to become something great one day, trust me! When you say a thank you, feel it, when you help someone, do it without the expected praises and fame from other people, showcase your gratitude and preach the same through your actions. Your actions must not fret over the results like it is said in the Bhagvad Gita, “karmaṇy-evādhikāras te mā phaleṣhu kadāchana mā karma-phala-hetur bhūr mā te saṅgo ’stvakarmaṇi.” (translation –You have a right to perform your prescribed duties, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, nor be attached to inaction.) Showing gratitude is one of the most powerful things that you can do if you really want to and are committed to achieving something great in life. You can work more, struggle more and do more when you feel the sense of gratitude which attracts all the positive things in life. Oprah Winfrey rightly said, “Be thankful for what you have; you will end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never ever have enough.” If you do not have enough money, you must have unique skills, if you do not have huge space to stay, probably you have peaceful atmosphere there, where everyone lives in harmony, if you have the willpower to grow and prosper, nothing will be a hurdle for you because winners win and losers give excuses. Do not focus on what you do not have in life, you are not deprived of everything, look at the brighter side and use it to turn your life mightier. Never try to escape from your problems and complain about it, learn to accept the situation and express your gratitude. “Failure inspires winners, and failure defeats losers. It is the biggest secret of winners. The greatest secret of winners is that failure inspires winning thus they are not afraid of losing.” — these power packed lines by Fran Tarkington must inspire every reader, every individual and drive them towards understanding life in a better way. We often do not understand these little secrets of life which can create miracles every day and once we are exposed to them and get the sweet benefits, we realize the importance. “When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out, and the tide of love rushes in.”